Friendship is a necessary aspect of every human’s life, as we are not self sufficient in and of ourselves.Despite its necessity, in some cases we are either forced or morally required to end these relationships.When the trust between two parties has been broken, the loyalty of the friendship is soiled, and it is therefore a true and just action to end the friendship.
First, let’s define what it means to be a friend. Friends can be described as: “an intimate associate, reliable, one who is not an enemy or foe, an ally, etc.” Thus, based upon the definition of a friend, we can assert that friends should not betray one another, regardless of the circumstance. This is true, iff, it is in the best interest of the friend.
Secondly, trust is an issue that every platonic friendship must deal with. Whether dealing with matters of trust is active or passive, its power is still a prevalent and pertinent quality that is mutually understood.Trust is an unwritten rule between friends and is defined as the “firm belief or confidence in the honesty, integrity, reliability, justice, etc of another person.” Trust is also described as “faith”.When using a word such as “faith,” that describes a substantial belief in one another, it is very difficult to argue that breaking the trust of the friendship is ever in the best interest of the friend. Trust means confidence, reliance and belief. Trust is one of the basic relationships between human beings and makes it possible for human beings to live as a group. Mutual trust is beneficial. With trust, people cooperate, help and support each other. On the other hand, people can suffer a lot from mistrust.
In addition, friends are loyal. By definition loyal friends are, “faithful to those persons ideals” and are, “under obligation to defend, support, or be true to,” each other .
Although the definitions of loyalty, as well as its connotations, scream commitment loyalty actually exists in many degrees. Loyalty can be seen as the pinnacle of the friendship in which case you would be willing to risk life and limb for that person. Or at the opposite end of the spectrum loyalty may not be taken seriously at all. For example, you may be loyal to the fish in your fish tank; in that you feed them, treat them well, change the water, etc. but in the case of a serious house fire you would not go running back in to rescue them.Granted there are also many stages in-between, total loyalty and minimal loyalty, but the integrity of the friendship is based around these two principles, loyalty and trust. Loyalty can determine the reliability of the friendship, just as well as the amount of trust that can be placed in that friend.
As we all know, not every friendship is one in which we can trust completely, nor do we feel entirely loyal to those people. Therefore, it is true that we can have friendships with a varying degree of loyalty and trust. Each friendship takes on its own uniqueness and attributes that can be labeled as one of the following: friendships of utility, pleasure, and character.
Friendships of pleasure are relationships in which we enjoy the pleasure derived from that companion. It may be that we completely enjoy spending time with this person involving a certain activity, but would not like to spend time with this person outside those parameters of the established relationship. In this type of friendship, you are much more likely to show a greater loyalty to that person than you would be in a friendship of utility. Although the loyalty may be stronger in this friendship it is not generally absolute.
A friend of character will form a true friendship in all aspects of the word. This is the most difficult type of friend to realize, but will be the most long lasting and sustaining friendship. This relationship is one in which loyalty and trust, are of the utmost importance to those involved. These two issues are not compromised as a result, and are therefore sustained with religious devotion. Specifically the loyalty in this type of friendship is absolute, simply being expected from one another. Moreover, the friendship is very fulfilling.
A friendship or relationships that‘s breached by a disregard for the trust established ) is never the same again as a result of the knowledge that the loyalty meant nothing or very little to the other person. This blatant disregard for the other person and their feelings is reason enough to end the friendship or relationship. If someone is willing to compromise your feelings and your trust, is it worth the pain that they have already put you thru to rebuild that relationship just so that they may do the same thing again? If you believe in the definitions of loyalty and trust the answer is a definite NO! because once the trust is broken its very difficult to build again......one can compare a broken trust which being tried to rebuild with a broken mirror.....how much ever u try to fix the broken peices of mirror the crack still remains there.......
So Friendship which is full of trust and loyality is the best relationship one can share and i m lucky to have some very good friends whom i trust and belive a lot and vice a versa....wud have like to mention names.....but the list is very long......i hope i m able to stand to the trust and believe of all my friends and our friendship is an everlasting one.......
So in the end i would like to say few lines on friendshp......
Khuda ne kaha dosti na kar dosti mein tu kanhi kho jayega....Maine kaha ai khuda zameen par aakar mere dost se mil....tu bhi us par fannah ho jayega !!!!!thats how friends and frndship should be.......
As a kid one day I returned home, grumbling that Santa Clause comes with gifts but I never saw him… my mother came up with a quick word, "he visits those kids who are not naughty, who study well and obey their parents." The little brain inside my head was in a dilemma, "should I be naughty or behave well?" I thought. Christmas was round the corner and after a lot of pondering I asked, " mummy, if I behave well, will Santa come?" "Certainly", said my mother.
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