ADULTS ASSUMPTIONS ON TEENAGERS

Everyone knows that throughout life, assumptions and stereotypes are made. Whether they concern age, gender, race, class and so on, it does not matter. Stereotypes are always made in some form or another, some can be referring to positive aspects, while others can be bad. Whether good or bad, stereotypes should not be made, if a person has not met someone, they shouldn’t presume to know them or their ‘type’. No two people are identical and so they should not be treated as though they are. Many people have similar interests and characteristics, but not identical. A common group that receives a lot of stereotyping is the youth of today.

Not everyone, but a lot of people follow the assumption that the youth of today’s society are nothing but bludgers. Youth usually have plenty of negative assumptions placed upon them such as being known as ‘Know alls’, ‘Trouble makers’, ‘Druggies’ and irresponsible. This names just a few of the negative assumptions that youth have placed upon them nearly, if not, everyday. There are also some positive assumptions made in regard to the youth of today, these are statements like they are beginning to understand the importance of education in order to have a chance at a secure future. Youth are very out going and don’t have a concern for tomorrow as they prefer to live for today. Youth have a creative imagination, not just towards art and work, but towards life in general and are willing to learn new skills in order to forward their knowledge, and are being thought of as the future generation.

I believe that all of these assumptions have an element of truth, but in the way of being stereotypes. To certain individuals, these assumptions may be true, but not every youth is a trouble maker or a drug addict and so on. As I said before, everyone is an individual and so should be treated as one, and not just as ‘one of them’. The reason I think this is because I know that I wouldn’t like it if someone treated me the same as other people who are nothing like me. I know that I’m not a ‘Druggie’ or a ‘Know all’ and so I do not want to be treated the way people treat these sort of youths. I know that this is sounding as though I am stereotyping but I am not, I am saying that people do put these groups under headings such as ‘Druggies’ and they then treat them different. I don’t want to be treated different by someone who does not know me and who is only going on what they think of youth overall.

People who place these assumptions on the youth of today are causing problems with the way the youths think they are perceived. If the youths think that people are against them, they may no longer see the point in trying their best, as they think it is pointless, nothing is going to change the way the rest of society see them. This may then cause more of society to think about the negative assumptions about youth rather than the positive ones.

It was also thought that adults, especially parents may have expectations of their children. That parents expect their children to up hold the same morals standard and values that they do. This may not always be the way, as some parents may want more for their children, while others may not really care what is happening to their children and the direction they are heading

towards. Adult expectations can then cause conflicts within families as there may be to much pressure on children to get a good job, to get married and to be successful and the children may feel that these expectations are to high and why can’t the parents just be happy with the child’s choice of direction in life.

Overall, there are both positive and negavite assumptions to be made about everyone. It just depends on whether people are going to believe them and even join in making the assumptions. As you can see, I’ve focused on more of the negative assumptions especially when writing about the impact these can have on youth. This is because the negative points are more obvious to people and youth should be able to handle the positive assumptions every now and then. As I’ve shown, negative ones only end up causing more problems and so should be left alone. If someone is going to come up with more negative assumptions, they should be kept to themselves, most of the youth in today’s society are doing their best to succeed and they do not need people telling them that they are going nowhere. They need positive encouragement, and this can not be in negative assumptions. So remember, if you meet a youth who is trying to succeed, help to encourage them and offer welcomed guidance rather than giving them a negative response.

INTERRACIAL DATING

Many interracial couples are faced with negative reactions from society, making it hard for them to have a regular relationship. They have to deal with disapproval from their own race, pessimistic reactions from family and friends, and not to mention the ignorance of society as a whole. Why is interracial dating so controversial? Is not racism, a thing of the past, or is that what we would like to believe?

People who date and socialize with people of different racial groups frequently experience negative reactions. Many of the disapproving messages come from people of their own racial group. They scoff and make fun of the idea that they are dating someone with a different tone of skin or ethnic background.

According to a poll , many people believe that people should date within their race to keep the unity within the ethnic community. It is like they believe in sequestering each racial group. They believe that every race is uniquely special and should not be integrated. Mixing races would only cause problems.

Probably one of the most hurtful things in life is having to deal with family and friends who are not supportive of the people you truly like and love. One might wonder what may cause family and friends to rebel against interracial dating. Many families may oppose the bonding of their loved one with someone of another race because of political reasons, religious reasons, or family pride. Apparently, many are not able to handle the conflicts and struggles brought on by family and friends. They need sanctions or permission from their parents to see if it is okay to date out of their race. The parent’s influential power causes them to be skeptical and doubtful about being involved in such relationship that they decide to end a perfect relationship in order to make them happy.

Many people who date out of their race are likely to encounter tension and criticism from society as a whole. People tend to have a superficial understanding about interracial dating and forget about the true meaning of a relationship. What temerity is this, receiving constant stares and negative reactions, it is completely rude and ignorant of people.

It is unequivocal that interracial dating is not easy. Is any relationship easy, interracial or not? But dating and marriage are not about pleasing others. It is about being with the person you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Race is not an issue when love is concerned. What is important is the factors that make the relationship work, such as trust and love, not what is pleasing to others.

Thus, why is society making it harder on them? How many interracial couples have been on the receiving end of many offensive stares when walking down the street? Why do people care? It is an issue of concern only to the couple. If one chooses to date a person of another race, why should society be bothered? It is an issue that needs to be dealt with by the individual people involved. Society is simply wasting there time by interfering with the couples relationship. It is wrong and unethical on their part to make it hard for them. If a couple is in love let them be happy. Those who repudiate interracial dating and feel that it is wrong need to attempt breaking down the color barriers that exist so highly in their lives. We were not put on this earth to criticize people on the way they feel, but to venerate and respect them. If two people can love each other, what difference does it make as to their roots and color.

FRIENDSHIP.....A BOND OF TRUST AND LOYALTY

Friendship is a necessary aspect of every human’s life, as we are not self sufficient in and of ourselves.Despite its necessity, in some cases we are either forced or morally required to end these relationships.When the trust between two parties has been broken, the loyalty of the friendship is soiled, and it is therefore a true and just action to end the friendship.

First, let’s define what it means to be a friend. Friends can be described as: “an intimate associate, reliable, one who is not an enemy or foe, an ally, etc.” Thus, based upon the definition of a friend, we can assert that friends should not betray one another, regardless of the circumstance. This is true, iff, it is in the best interest of the friend.

Secondly, trust is an issue that every platonic friendship must deal with. Whether dealing with matters of trust is active or passive, its power is still a prevalent and pertinent quality that is mutually understood.Trust is an unwritten rule between friends and is defined as the “firm belief or confidence in the honesty, integrity, reliability, justice, etc of another person.” Trust is also described as “faith”.When using a word such as “faith,” that describes a substantial belief in one another, it is very difficult to argue that breaking the trust of the friendship is ever in the best interest of the friend. Trust means confidence, reliance and belief. Trust is one of the basic relationships between human beings and makes it possible for human beings to live as a group. Mutual trust is beneficial. With trust, people cooperate, help and support each other. On the other hand, people can suffer a lot from mistrust.

In addition, friends are loyal. By definition loyal friends are, “faithful to those persons ideals” and are, “under obligation to defend, support, or be true to,” each other .

Although the definitions of loyalty, as well as its connotations, scream commitment loyalty actually exists in many degrees. Loyalty can be seen as the pinnacle of the friendship in which case you would be willing to risk life and limb for that person. Or at the opposite end of the spectrum loyalty may not be taken seriously at all. For example, you may be loyal to the fish in your fish tank; in that you feed them, treat them well, change the water, etc. but in the case of a serious house fire you would not go running back in to rescue them.Granted there are also many stages in-between, total loyalty and minimal loyalty, but the integrity of the friendship is based around these two principles, loyalty and trust. Loyalty can determine the reliability of the friendship, just as well as the amount of trust that can be placed in that friend.

As we all know, not every friendship is one in which we can trust completely, nor do we feel entirely loyal to those people. Therefore, it is true that we can have friendships with a varying degree of loyalty and trust. Each friendship takes on its own uniqueness and attributes that can be labeled as one of the following: friendships of utility, pleasure, and character.

Friendships of pleasure are relationships in which we enjoy the pleasure derived from that companion. It may be that we completely enjoy spending time with this person involving a certain activity, but would not like to spend time with this person outside those parameters of the established relationship. In this type of friendship, you are much more likely to show a greater loyalty to that person than you would be in a friendship of utility. Although the loyalty may be stronger in this friendship it is not generally absolute.

A friend of character will form a true friendship in all aspects of the word. This is the most difficult type of friend to realize, but will be the most long lasting and sustaining friendship. This relationship is one in which loyalty and trust, are of the utmost importance to those involved. These two issues are not compromised as a result, and are therefore sustained with religious devotion. Specifically the loyalty in this type of friendship is absolute, simply being expected from one another. Moreover, the friendship is very fulfilling.

A friendship or relationships that‘s breached by a disregard for the trust established ) is never the same again as a result of the knowledge that the loyalty meant nothing or very little to the other person. This blatant disregard for the other person and their feelings is reason enough to end the friendship or relationship. If someone is willing to compromise your feelings and your trust, is it worth the pain that they have already put you thru to rebuild that relationship just so that they may do the same thing again? If you believe in the definitions of loyalty and trust the answer is a definite NO! because once the trust is broken its very difficult to build again......one can compare a broken trust which being tried to rebuild with a broken mirror.....how much ever u try to fix the broken peices of mirror the crack still remains there.......

So Friendship which is full of trust and loyality is the best relationship one can share and i m lucky to have some very good friends whom i trust and belive a lot and vice a versa....wud have like to mention names.....but the list is very long......i hope i m able to stand to the trust and believe of all my friends and our friendship is an everlasting one.......

So in the end i would like to say few lines on friendshp......

Khuda ne kaha dosti na kar dosti mein tu kanhi kho jayega....
Maine kaha ai khuda zameen par aakar mere dost se mil....
tu bhi us par fannah ho jayega !!!!!

thats how friends and frndship should be.......

LOVE.....WHAT DOES IT MEAN??? A MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION

Love by definition is an emotion explored in philosophy, religion, and literature, often as either romantic love, the fraternal love of others, or the love of God based on the definition found in The Encarta Encyclopedia. As I explored the definition by means of the Internet, books, and articles I noticed the definitions changed quite a bit, but yet had the same basic understanding. The definition I found in The Encarta Encyclopedia was probably the most simple and most basic. It refers to love in the whole aspect, which is Godly, fraternal, and romantic. All in which can only be defined by one word and that it love.

The definitions of love are the same and yet different. Godly, for instance is the love of God, and your devotion and respect toward him, the creator. In all religion, god carries the same aspect. Fraternal love is the love of ones family and relatives, even the love of one who is close to you, in that respect, such as a friend. Then there’s romantic love; a love between two people, which I consider to be both intimate and sexual. Older dictionaries and encyclopedias usually refer to the romantic aspect of love, as the love in which is experience between man and woman.

In today’s society it is said that romantic love can be found regardless of your gender and based on that definition I would have to agree, but personally disagree for the simply reason that we were physically made to adapt with the other gender sexually. Feeling romantic love for the same sex would defeats the purpose of our existents, which is procreation. Thus making love for the same sex unjust.

Love has been expressed since the beginning of time; since Adam and Eve. Each culture expresses its love in its own special way. Through out history, though, it’s aspect has always been the same. Love has been a major characteristic of literature also.

One of the most famous works in literary history is, Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare. This story deals with the love of a man and a woman who’s families have been sworn enemies. There love surpassed the hatred in which the families endured for generations. In the end they both ended up killing their selves, for one could not live without the other. This story is a perfect example of true love.

True love is the true feeling of romantic love and is a love that should last an eternity. It is often referred to as true love because what is considered to be love is often faulty and corrupt, not even true love at all!

Love can easily be mistaken for a simple crush or strong liking of someone. The unfortunate thing is, most people can’t tell the difference between true love and corrupt love; the end result may be a broken heart.

The term broken heart is used when something has jeopardized the romantic love between two people and the end result is the termination of, what is called, a relationship. Basically hurting the person or persons emotionally involved in this so-called relationship. The term relationship has different definitions, but the one I am referring to is the relationship between two people, an intimate relationship. It is said that when two people fall in love with each other they are to take it to a higher level, a more intimate level, which is called a relationship. A relationship is basically a compatibility test to see if the two who are in the relationship are truly in love and can handle the duress in which they bring upon each other. This is where the turning point of the relationship begins. Should they decide to spend the rest of their lives with each other, they will get married. Marriage is basically a contract between two people creating a mutual dependence of one another in a lifetime of commitment.

This lifetime contract is a way of justifying the true love between couples, a love that should last a lifetime. Marriage is basically a custom throughout different cultures. Most marriages are based on the sole purpose of creating a family, a whole families basis is on love. You can’t have a family if you don’t have the love that supports the family. It starts as the love of two individuals, and then progresses to the love of a family.

The love between parent and child is far more different than the love between husband and wife. That is where the difference in the meaning of love comes in. Romantic love is the love between husband and wife and fraternal love is the love between parent and child. And if you’re a religious family you have the love of your God. All in which are very different; and yet pretty much the same!


Some marriages don’t last, unfortunately and the end result is a divorce. A divorce is basically the termination of a marriage. Most divorces occur due to corrupted love. If it is true love it’ll last a lifetime. Nothing can break the love between two people if it’s true love. If it were possible to break this eternal bond it would have to have been a relationship based on corrupted love. True love is very rare in my opinion and if it exists it will last a lifetime, regardless. If not, that relationship is corrupt. Corrupted relationships are relationships that are falsified by ones wrong intentions in a relationship. These intentions tend to throw the other companion into a belief that their partner loves them when in fact they don’t thus causing heartbreak.


Most of these intentions are sexual and physical. Any relationship based strictly on sexual and physical attraction will fail. True love is primarily emotional. These sexual tendencies are what cause a corrupt relationship. After researching the meaning behind love I have come to realize the importance it has on humanity. Without love, our race could not exist. It is the love for one another that keeps us going; unlike any species on earth we are the only ones that have this emotion and it is what makes us who we are. Without love, we are all lost

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TRIP TO SHIRDI

It was 18th of Jan……..after the having torturous day (courtesy lecture of HOD on DCN).
Came back home……had some munchies and tea….and then came online as usual…..that’s a accustomed routine for us. So as I was chatting with Anand all of a sudden got news that results will be out in next week. Hearing this I, immediately buzzed Anand on yahoo that lets go shirdi tomorrow, to which Anand said lets go driving there, it will be exciting. So he immediately got acquiescence from his dad. Finally we decided to meet at andheri station around 1:00 pm so that we can leave by 1:30 as we wanted to avoid night driving. All of a sudden it clicked us that we don’t have camera so we decided to go to Rahul’s place and he stays about some 20 min away from Andheri station. But to travel to his place it takes more than 45 min….as traffic is a part and parcel of life in that place.

Finally after besieged in traffic we reached Rahul’s place. We got the camera. We clicked the first snap at his home to mark the commencement. As we were about to leave, Rahul got his dog SCOTT…..the moment he saw me he pounced on me, for a moment I was taken aback….to which Rahul said……”Scholars ko dekh ke aisa hei karta hai yeh” ( mind u though, I m not a scholar)….hearing which all of us bursted into laughter…..A perfect start for the trip……

So at last we departed frm Andheri at 3: 15 pm…..Anand started to drive….but we had hardly gone few meters we were caught in traffic again this time on Andheri Powai road. We reached Thane around 4:00 pm and we were at this place as per schedule…..thanx to some fast but safe driving of Anand. Our next destination was Nashik….about 160 kms frm thane…..we decided to reach there by 7:00 pm….As the on the way we have to pass…GHATs……and its better to drive slowly in ghats …most of the time its the big monsterous trucks that creates problem on National Highway 3 connecting Thane and Nashik….be aware of them…..they carry real heavy loads…..and it takes no time for them to go off there way creating traffic problems…..

So our journey headed towards Nashik a religious pilgrimage type of place in Maharashtra…..with some real good songs driving was very smooth and comfortable…….Anand was driving car at brisk speed on the highway…..overtaking those trucks…and nudging his way between two vehicles…..we had crossed the ghats and the drive waz very comfortable……until a big speed breaker came on the way…as there was no signboard indicating speed breaker ahead…..Anand was driving at a speed of 80 kmph, when he suddenly bumpped on some thing it was the speed breaker……he was hardly able to control the car…the car jumped on another speed breaker…this time it cramped my tummy muscles…..
Further journey towards nashik continued….we had traveled about 4 or 5 km….when we saw a truck joining our lane from a adjoining DHABA…..(dhaba is a small hotel kind of thing along the highways).We gave him signal that we r on straight lane we are moving ahead…..by using dipper light as well as horn,…..but that fellow seemed to be drunkard……so he kept moving his truck……all of a sudden Anand realized its not possible to go ahead…so applied break and the car stopped just abt 2 mts from the truck…..collision was avoided…..hats off to anand’s driving……
We continued our journey and we reached Nashik at 7:15 pm….

We thought we will be caught in traffic and will be late....but luckily there was a flyover which took us directly out of Nashik city.......after crossing the bridge...a left turn and we were out of Nashik......by this time we had started feeling hungry......so we decided to stop at some dhaba and have dinner.....
finally after driving 5 or 6 km we reached a dhaba named....vanshree dhaba.....we reached this place at 7:45....pm......just as we entered the dhaba we made call to our classmate and very good infact best frnd of ours.....shikha and divya....they were also on the way to Shirdi and there bus was suppose to depart frm nerul at 8:00 pm......wishing them happy journey...

We started to explore the menu card.......and we decided to have Panner Tikka Masala and Butter Nan......as it was getting late....and we were really very very very hungry.....we ordered for papad....for time pass.....by time we muched up the papad.....out dinner was ready....look wise it was ok.....but it seemed that vegetble was floating on the oil......with gr8 difficulty had our dinner.....then ordered for lassi......it was a really good and tasty with dry fruits.......so our tummy was full.....and we had to head our journey to Shirdi about 90 km of Nashik......

Now I decided to take the command over steering and drive the rest 90 km........We left this place by 8:10 pm.....started to drive towards our destination....home of Sai baba...Shirdi.....

Started driving at speed of around 50 kmph……as it was night…driving was a bit difficult…with lights of vehicles going in opposite direction….directly beaming on the eye. Slowly started to raise the speed and started driving faster as road was quite free with nor traffic…..so the speed rose to 90 kmph……On the way u can see signboards…..indicating go slow over the bridge as bridge is old and weak….don’t know what are government is doing by collecting those toll taxes…..they r supposed to be collected for maintaining the road…….but it seems government is nicely enjoying with those money or I suppose its just a way of minting money…..and yes how can one forget the signboards indicating……”Go Slow….water may be flowing over the bridge……I suppose bridges are build at sufficient height so that water can below the bridge…..and not over the bridge…….but here reverse happens…….water flows above the bridges……
So reading all these hilarious statements on signboard…..we continued our journey….luckily during this period of time rivers are dry….so didn’t have any problem in crossing the so called bridges over the rivers……..
We reached Shirdi at 9:35 pm……

Our next task was to search for good hotel…..with following specifications…..should have safe parking place…..should have reasonable rates and should be near to the TEMPLE of Sai Baba…..so after some searching work…..we decided to stay at hotel Abhishek….Stay at shirdi is really costly.....we had to pay Rs. 800+4% luxury tax....which comes out to be 832.......so we got a room....as double room was not available we got room with 3 beds.....at the same cost.....seems he was carried by our innocence face......so we parked the car and went to our room.....

We kept our luggage in the room.....got refreshed.....and decided to have a walk to nearby place and to temple campus....... so after having nice walk....in some what cold weather.....we decided to call our frnds to inquire where they have reached......so we made a call......and divya said they have moved outside thane and are at some dhaba having there dinner........

So after having a nice stroll......we came back to hotel saw highlights of Australia Vs England cricket match......then the ending part of movie shabd.....and apna spna money money......and after that we plunged into land of dreams.....

Next day as usual i was sleeping but Anand got up early as divya and company reached shirdi and buzzed anand that they aree all set to go to temple.....after lazying around a bit i got up....luckily there was hot water supply so had a nice shower.......but mind u water in this reason is hard water......so take care of ur hair while having bath.....after getting ready we headed towards temple premises...bare foot......withing 5 min we reached the temple premises.....once u near the premises the people selling flowers and sweets will flock arnd u....and its a just way of minting money......will u beleive just a small garland a packet of 250 gm of sweets and a small cloth....will cost u rupees 250.......so in short can say in shirdi everything is costly...i.e stay as well as offering articles to god.....so after buying all these stuff...the shopkeeper packed it in a polyethene bag.....another illegal act, as polyethenes are supposed to be banned......but no one is bothered.....its used at par.....so after all this we stood in the queue.....after 2 hrs we reached the place....had darshan.....worst thing u will find here is.....u travell lonf distances and come here to pray but the moment u reach the place of BABA....the first thing u will hear is move quickly within a minute.....wait not even a mnute might be just 30 sec.....i don't know....what is the duty of these guards...to syop commotion and kick out the people as soon as they reach the smadhi...to pray.....ufffff.....thats a really pathetic act.....
after that we went to dwarka mai....a place which said to be resting place of BABA and its said the fire lit by baba is still burning there....and its true....
After that we returned back to hotel had our breakfast and went to meet our frnds who were abt 1/2 km away frm the place we had stayed....we met them and decided to follow there bus....i took the command on the steering and followed the bus for almost 90 kms till Nashik....it was a very good chase sequence....but we were caught in Traffic and nashik and then we lost the sight of the bus......so continued our journey back to mumbai.....now there was swap at driver's seat
and Anand enjoyed driving in the ghats.....after completing our journey in the ghats....it was arnd 2:00 pm and so we decided to have our lunch.....and we halted at BABA DA DHABA....we thought good will not be good courtsey the dinner which we had last night on the way to shirdi at vanshree....was really terrible......but to surprise food was very good here we had sahi paneer and tandoori roti......relished the food and as ususal ended the lunch with lassi.....[:)]

Again i took control of steering and drove at brisk speed and reached outskirts of mumbai....after that lst leg of journey was covered by anand....he dropped me at nerul and went back to andheri......An exciting memorable journey came to an end....